Welcome to Personal Effects for June……this month I share some key learning from a training weekend with Robert Dilts and Pam (a new NLP Business Practitioner) shares how she has used her new skills to navigate the sometimes choppy waters of change at work……………..
This is the venue for the NLP Master Practitioner with Life Spheres 27th July to 7th August
There is still time to join Eleni and myself for this fabulous NLP Master Practitioner with loads of ‘extras’ on the menu: additional certification on Hynotic Language and Timeline, a fabulous afternoon on ‘Family Constellations’ ……….and even a day of the course on a sail boat !!! Interested ? Click here to find out more.
This article is inspired by a recent conversation with my friend and associate Jill Harrison, (as I often am !), on the contrasting mindsets of ‘poverty’ and ‘abundance’ thinking. Specifically noticing how one limits our actions and relationships ………….and how the other opens up our opportunities in life and nourishes our relationships with others…………………………
A poverty mentality is one that influences behaviours consistent with beliefs that money shouldn’t be spent, opportunities are limited, any risk at all is dangerous, any success is temporary and non-replicable, and generally remaining in the back of the pack is safest.
An abundance mentality is one that assures you that you are successful and can replicate that success, you have value and talents in strong demand, and you can handle most situations that come your way very successfully. (And those times you can’t, you’re resilient and bounce back quickly.)
Here is a quick comparison:
Poverty Thinking |
Abundance Thinking |
| Focus on cost cutting | Look for ways to increase income |
| Limit ambitions | Set achievable goals |
| Decrease motivation | Celebrate each little success |
| Never feeling you have enough reserves or resources | Keep money moving – be generous with others |
| Analysis paralysis in decision making | See the opportunity in every problem/setback |
| Develop a ‘Hold back’ habit | Keep moving forward |
| Complain | Show gratitude |
| Seek outside approval | Recognise own successes and build self confidence |
| Belief that you are a victim of others’ decisions and choices | See your own part in interactions with others and learn from them |
| Jealously protect your work and thinking as if you will never create anything again | Share in the confidence you can create much more |
Where do you sit………..and what difference does knowing this make for your future actions ?
With Robert Dilts and Deborah Bacon Dilts
I hadn’t really considered what I could learn from my ‘demons’ ………and far less the value of ‘dancing’ with them ! That was until I met Robert and Deborah Dilts on ‘The Hero’s Journey’………….. now I am dancing with them all the time……..and learning…………..
I thought surely all I would want to do with ‘demons’ would be to run away from them or at least fight them off. Then a few weeks ago I attended the ‘Hero’s Journey’ course. The idea of the ‘Journey’ is from the work of Joseph Campbell whose book is ‘The Hero with a Thousand Faces’. The Hero’s Journey was the story of the man or woman who, through great suffering, reached an experience of the eternal source and returned with gifts powerful enough to set their society free.
This has become a metaphor for how when we choose to take risks and work with our demons, we transform ourselves and others around us. On the way though there are those demons. When we face any demon/dragon/problem there are stages we go through (similar to the change curve)… and at each stage we can welcome in the ‘learning’ with these phrases:
Consider how thinking /saying these the next time you meet a demon might teach you something too…………….
And then there is the dancing …………..more of that later for now just keep moving …………….
Pam Birks
Head of Property Services, Riverside, Cumbria
What if any control/influence do I have in times of change?
I have all the resources I need (Florence’s voice is telling me in her beautiful melodic tone), I can choose how to work in a changing environment, now I am choosing to use my learning and resources and seeing the positive outcomes…………….
I have found that smiling is rewarded with a smile back; I am looking for the positive intentions in the change going on around me.
One little change has made a big change:
Behind every apparently ‘negative’ response is a positive intention – I now look for the positive intention in the change and work to achieve it.
Ergo:- Smile and breed positivity, speak using sub modalities and engage staff, releasing the negativity and using it as a positive.
‘Change is an Opportunity’, to learn new things, do our tasks in a different way, improve safety and so much more………
A powerful TED talk this time by Brene Brown
http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en#t-295245
Brene discusses the effect of the twin gremlins on our shoulders: ‘never good enough’ and ‘who do you think you are’…………and the liberation of ‘daring greatly’ !
Since starting my business in 2002 with 13 years training and development experience within commercially driven environments, I have been developing a strong track record of helping others to achieve and grow.
