I am excited to announce my first book ‘The Intention Impact Conundrum’, also the subject of my session at the NLP International conference, is available on Amazon from 26th April…. read on for a taster from Chapter 1 !
First all of some ‘thank yous’ to friends and clients who have become friends……..and all now my editors: Sue Knight, Claire Bradshaw, Chris Bray, Laura Cadman, Maureen Tallis, Dr Jo Verrill, Nicky Ellis, Alyson Renwick, Eleni Sarantinou and Dr David Fraser.
Thank you for your help and feedback that have got the book to this point ………and your generous testimonials.
A little taste of Chapter 1: The View From Here
When you stand inside a building usually you can see what is in there, you know the quality of the light, the temperature, the furnishings – and something of what it is like to be in there. People outside can only glimpse through the windows or other openings and see only a little of what you can see. They can only guess what it is like to be in there, based on what they observe. From inside we don’t have their perspective either, we don’t know the overall picture that they can see or interpret how it looks to them.
That is how it is for us too as people. We know what it is like on the inside because that is our main view. Sometimes we don’t even know what is in some of the rooms yet because we have to make the effort to explore to know that. We don’t know what people are seeing from the outside unless we go out and join them there, and ask them questions about what they are seeing. So our view if we stand still is naturally limited. In NLP* a key pre-supposition is that:
Everyone has a different map of the world
If on the other hand we are curious enough to explore, paying attention to what is happening around us, willing to shift our perspective and respectful enough to ask for and listen to others’ viewpoints, then our map of the world will expand and change! With it, our relationships with others, and indeed with ourselves, shifts too.
That is what this book is all about
….. being curious
….. being willing to look from new perspectives
….. being open to feedback verbal or observed
…. and helping others to do the same……
So how can we get a handle on the impact we have on others…..and what to do about it?
* NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming is an approach to communication, personal development, and psychotherapy created by Richard Bandler, John Grinder and Frank Pucelik in California, the United States in the 1970s. Their work was based on the work of thinkers in 1960s and 1970s operating in the fields of cybernetics, therapy and philosophy.
To find out more get your own copy on Amazon and /or join me at the NLP International Conference on 20th May !
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