Welcome to Personal Effects for March !!! Spring is in the air and so are celebrations……….have a look below at the group who successfully completed their NLP Business Practitioner in January……. ……….Also ‘the pain and power of feedback’ ?……..And career change after 40 !! Read on…………

Congratulations on achieving NLP Business Practitioner!!!

Congratulations to Amanda, Beverley, Andrea, Hayley, Steve, Andy and Kerry on achieving NLP Business Practitioner!!!

And some of their ‘Personal Effects’ ……

….the course was excellent. Florence is approachable, inspiring and patient. She is a personal role model for NLP- she reflects how adopting NLP behaviours and attitudes- can not only make you a better coach but a better person….Beverley Little Retail Staff Development Manager, Hays Travel

I would highly recommend this programme to anyone wanting to improve their management skills within their organisation………… There was exactly the right mix of activities to ensure effective learning took place.Kerry Glaister Project Officer – Employment & Training, Riverside

Fantastic; from an initial position of scepticism toward the topic after being involved with other similar training/management sessions where I never got much out of it, Florence’s training style made it so worthwhile for me………. Inspirational; she made the whole course flow so naturally……..Her enthusiasm for the content made it easier to learn.Steve Balmer Independent Financial Consultant, David Allen Wealth Management

Career change at 40 – the next chapter…

By Angela Watson

NLP Trainer
Executive Coach
And specialist in animal assisted learning programmes !

Last week I announced that I am writing my first book ‘How To Change Your Career After Forty and Do The Work That You Love’. I’ve been thrilled by the response which has been so positive and encouraging.

And in the words of my former client, wonderful Wendi…

Great idea, Angela, and much needed. Recent conversations have made it clear to me that while “What do you want?” is a tough question at any time, it carries some special sharp edges for those of us over 40… or 50…

I am meeting so many inspirational people who have already ’taken the plunge’ to follow their passion and purpose and are willing to share their stories with me – successes and war stories…….

To read More… http://angelawatsonuk.com/2014/02/04/the-next-chapter/

The pain and the power of feedback

By Sue Knight

International Consultant and author of ‘NLP At Work’, pioneering the use of NLP for people in business.

“Daddy I don’t want to go to school anymore!” “Why not son?” replied his shocked father. “They keep trying to tell me about things I don’t know!”

Just recently I received some shocking personal feedback. The facts did not correspond to the events as I had experienced them. And that does not matter although it did cause me a lot of pain at the time. What matters is that I look beyond the accusations and emotive language and seek the truth.

The feedback is always the truth for the person giving it. There really is no point in disputing the facts. Feedback is rarely about truth. It is often about relationships and anger and pain and equally it can be about admiration and celebration and respect. It can be just as hard to receive the latter as it is the former.

This is feedback!

I recall David Gordon saying on my first NLP training – when someone gives you feedback they are telling you about themselves more than they are telling you about you. And even so, it is a chance to learn from whatever they say, no matter how they say it. At the time of reading this feedback (which was not given to me personally and was given without an invitation to explore or discuss face to face) I read a copy of a newsletter by my friend Lesley McDonald (Google lesley mcdonald nlp edinburgh); she speaks so beautifully about our capacity to go beyond the actions and words and forgive and to realise that in the way that we do this we can make a difference in the world. She refers to Gordon Wilson whose daughter was so tragically killed in the Eniskillen bombing and whose actions in forgiving the bombers were believed to have been the turning point in the progress towards peace in Northern Ireland. These are the kind of words and actions that lead to peace. Lesley’s words came to me at the time that I needed them most.

I have often heard delegates on my courses when being given feedback say “That is right” and I ask them “What kind of feedback is wrong? Is it feedback that you have never heard before in which case that might be the very feedback that you most need to hear”

Notice that I do not talk about how we give feedback here as I believe that we only have that right when we have learnt how to receive it with an open mind and an open heart. There is a great deal written on how to give but less on how to receive and yet that is the time when we can give the most.

I have spent the last three months in India and I admire so much the Indian thinking and ways.

My Master used to say, “Our home is the training ground of patience and endurance. To endure the adversities of life is for us the greatest penance which is the noblest of all other forms of penances. What we have, therefore, to do under the circumstances is not to give way to the feeling of anger or grief but assume an unquestioning attitude thinking that we ourselves are in the wrong for which we have to forbear with a cool mind. Solitary life in a forest and aloofness from all worldly concerns may be to some the means of cultivating patience and forbearance but to us the taunts and rebukes of our friends and relations is the greatest penance and the surest means of success“. Reality at Dawn by Ram Chandra

Receiving and giving feedback are themes on all my programmes. It is vital to the process of modelling excellence with NLP. You can enrich your ability to do this in the coming months in France or the UK or if you are prepared to wait a little longer in India at the end of 2014 and the beginning of 2015.

Find Out more about Sue’s work on http://www.sueknight.com

You might be interested in…………

My friend Jenny Mackness recommends this 13 minute TED talk on being Authentic by Sarah Abell: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=woZHUA3BFmE

Daniel Kahneman ‘Thinking Fast and Slow’ …. if you caught the Horizon programme recently on ‘how we make decisions’ … read so much more in his bestselling book !